I'm known as something of a realist among my friends and family. As a rule I have faith in tangible things. Feet on the ground, head well out of the clouds, that's me.
But you know, 17 or so years ago when my man walked into the room, I was smitten. Instantly. He says he was too. Whatever it was going on between us, none of it was tangible. And you know what? It's still there. Sure we have our grumpy days when we can't agree on anything. I leave junk in the car, he drops junk on the kitchen table. I wipe the basin and fold the towels, he leaves the bathroom like a walrus wallow.
But we can look at each other and smile and it's still all there. We had a scary health scare recently and it brought us even closer together and made us appreciate how very precious our shared life is.
I think I get my pragmatic nature from my dad who pooh-poohs anything even vaguely mystical. But you ask Dad how he met Mum and he'll tell you he saw her cycling down the road and... wham! That was more than 60 years ago when they were both still in their teens.
Lots of studies have been carried out to determine why people 'fall in love'. According to Earl Naumann in his book Love at First Sight: The Stories and Science behind Instant Attraction, 55% of people who experienced love at first sight subsequently married, and 75% of those couples have stayed married, quite an improvement over the average statistics for divorce. Professor of Psychology Elaine Hatfield developed a passionate love scale to measure the strength of an individual's love for another.
How about you? Do you believe in love at first sight?